In secular college, anything goes, and people pretty much just do what I want.
I joined a discipleship group with a contract with all kinds of legalistic requirements.
My friends and I who were in that group now laugh when we think about how we used to cut our worship parties and prayer meetings early because we were under contract not to be out past midnight.
Going to a gay bar was pretty intimidating for someone who had never even been in a regular bar for the first 26 years of his life, but really there’s not much to be afraid of.
You might see bar tenders in tight short shorts, but that’s about it.
We met at R Place and then walked over to Neighbours.
It was a weeknight, so neither of them were busy, so that was probably a better introduction than a weekend night would have been.I think I went on the second and third dates both because I was too nice to end it and didn’t know how, and because I wanted to learn some general stuff about being gay and the gay community from him.He is a gay Christian who went to SPU and had come out about two years earlier, so he had some valuable insights to share.It was a guy I met on Tinder, and we chatted for a while before meeting.We met at a bar, and it was my first time ever intentionally going to a bar.Eventually, I realized the nicest thing to do is to be honest and end it before it goes any further if you know it shouldn’t go any further.