So, my answer to this popular query is always the same: If it occurs in nature, then yes, it is natural. The more we understand and can identify patterns, the better we can cope and even evade the trauma associated with them.And since extra-marital affairs have been in existence for just as long as the institution of marriage, I think it is time we stopped looking at affairs as heinous crimes and instead as a natural occurrences. Marriage was invented to legitimize offspring so that parents could pass down any assets acquired over their lifetime to heirs.Ninety per cent of questions that centre around sex and love are a version of "Am I normal?
Now for the happy part: Once you understand that affairs are driven by natural tendencies, you can stop personalizing the act and begin managing the possibilities.
I strongly believe that keeping an open dialogue with your partner about their temptations, desires and natural drives is very important.
It is really only within the past couple of generations that love has conquered all and become the primary driving force for tying the knot.
And even though we in North America have adopted the Disney model, it doesn’t negate the fact that only 5 per cent of all mammals are monogamous and whether or not humans belong to this minority is still widely debated.
Communication: The importance of good communication is obvious.
We have all experienced the consequences of poor communication with our spouse.
In the beginning, marriage was essentially a business transaction designed to increase the power, legacy, wealth and reputation of a family name.
Historically, extra-marital affairs were common, permissible and especially in the male’s case, not seen by the courts as substantial grounds for divorce.
Date nights improve marriages, according to common sense and a comprehensive, quantitative study conducted by the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia.
The study showed improvements for married couples who go on frequent dates across categories such as happiness, commitment, communication, parenthood stability, and community integration.
Similarly, a married man is a living example of the qualities women naturally seek out: Some women simply appreciate their attraction while respecting the family unit, others compete to have those qualities for themselves.