But a little too often, you run across a profile or get an email from someone who gives you (the wrong kind of) goosebumps.
And yes of course, it’s totally ok to turn down people (especially the creepsters) who you know won’t be a fit.
But here’s the thing — I’m pretty sure that most people sign up for online dating wanting to say “yes”.
Clearly from my attempts doing this for myself, and reading hundreds of profiles of others trying to do the same, this is no easy feat.
And in trying to sound all bright and shiny and wonderful, things just get awkward. And let’s not forget that most online dating sites are all public. I don’t like the creepsters On that note, as a single girl, I have to say a word about the creepsters.
And when someone presses for why I’m not OK Cupid-ing or Tinder-ing or EHarmonizing my way through these single years, I have also learned to articulate a few reasons.
So I thought I’d share five of those today for any inquiring minds who might want to know why I’m not online dating — especially for any of you married folk who might wonder why some of your single friends (who might still want to be in a relationship) are intentionally passing up all of those available fish in the online sea.
And the whole idea of online “yes’s” and “no’s” just starts to seem unnecessary if you’re not going on many good dates. It is where you can share as many updated (or not) photos as you’d like.
Anyway, it’s something I didn’t expect about online dating, and it was not fun. I don’t like my bright and shiny (and VERY public) profile In the world of online dating, it’s ALL about your profile. And it is basically your modern day calling card for all things YOU. I mean, we all have a little experience with profiles nowadays thanks to Facebook.
But in my experience most of the “results” that popped up definitely didn’t feel like “matches”. But if I’ve learned anything from watching so many friends get married over the past decade, it’s that the spouses they end up with almost always do not perfectly match the checklists they had going in. I’m not against narrowing down the field, but the detailed checklists just don’t feel like the way I’m going to find my “match”. I don’t like turning guys down Ok, this may seem like an odd one, but hear me out.
Oh, their profiles and emails and one-liners definitely made for some spectacular But you know what? No, I was surprised to realize that what I disliked most about the selection process was actually filling out the checkboxes and window-shopping for guys. And thank goodness they didn’t, because those people usually end up being the perfect matches, in that perfectly imperfect, wonderful way that life seems to go. I think the thing I was most unprepared for with online dating was how many people you end up in the process.
But most dating sites don’t let you off the hook with just your age, occupation, alma mater, and hometown.