“Of course it will probably be uncomfortable for both of you,” Anthony says.
"A 12-year-old who looks 16 isn’t ready to date someone who is 16," Anthony says.
You may not love the idea of your child beginning to date, but don't try to pretend it’s not happening.
Seriously, dating age depends upon all kinds of factors, and varies from child to child, even within the same family. Never consider your neighborhood’s “average age” when making your decision. Parents used to expect instinctively to be challenged by their kids, especially in judgments of how fast one should grow up. If you make kids too different, they’ll feel like weirdos who don’t fit in. First date at age 14 leads to a 50% chance; first date at age 16, 20% chance. I figure if I make the list long enough, my kids won’t be eligible to date until they move out.
But here are some general guidelines from my experience: 1. What is quite different these days is that you are almost as likely to be questioned by your peers, the parents of your children’s friends, They will say: “These are different times. Once you are confident your son or daughter has met these standards, sit them down, let them know how much you admire who they are and who they’re becoming.
And he or she needs your guidance and support right now." You don’t want them learning the rules of dating from peers or the media, without your input.
The more you talk to your kids about what it means to be in a healthy relationship, the more likely they are to experience that, whenever they start dating.Young women are often looking for the security of emotional support and that feeling of being cherished by one person – being someone’s “one and only”!They are craving the attention of a man in their life. This said, it is a simple truth of life that if you act differently from the way the majority does, you will be misunderstood by most. Nothing at all is to be gained from premature, opposite-sex involvement through dating, or for that matter, through the phone, dances, parties, or games kids love.It is a relevant question, in a society that pushes dating at such a young age.