Profile pictures are probably the single most daunting component of setting up any dating service.
And everyone knows the old standard rules (don't put photos from ten years ago up, don't post photos with exes, don't post photos of people that are not you, etc.) and many people know some dead giveaways.
So I updated my information to sound more amenable to men, and I procured more dates ... There's nothing wrong with not being a "cool girl," not being a sports enthusiast, and wanting to use words (especially if you write them for a living).
I learned it's equally as important to be honest in person as much as you are online, like admitting that no, you haven't heard of the band Com Truise and that the idea of playing catch in the park is not an ideal date for you.
Someone really did utter the words "good luck" to me as he sent me off onto the R train, back into the abyss of the internet.
And there were people who thoroughly disappointed me, too, and because I'm a human, there were occasional tears shed in the process.
(Both of which I did not admit in 2012 — neither date ended well for me, especially when catch turned into 'fetch' given my lack of hand-eye coordination.) The more dates I went on, the more I was able to realize what I found to be acceptable — and what I found to be unacceptable.
There was a time early in my dating journey when I thought that a pulse and the ability to understand my theater references marked the zeniths of romance. But the only way that I was able to develop standards was by going on lots of dates.
"Data: A Love Story" by Amy Webb chronicles Webb's journey as she looks for love on the internet.
Webb used analytics and data to gamify the system and find her husband-to-be.
Maybe you'll go on fewer dates, but the dates you do go on will probably fare better than they would had you not paid attention to specifics.