When you meet someone new, you will have a better perspective on how your ex is feeling about you and the relationship you both once had.2. Most people are puzzled as to why they are jealous of someone they didn’t want in their life any longer. This was YOUR husband or YOUR wife, you expected fidelity, and now it may feel like cheating to see them with someone else.
Remember what you think and what you feel can sometimes be at odds, but it’s perfectly normal to feel some jealousy and even look for things to criticize in your ex’s new partner. Divorce is not entered into lightly, and you probably have valid reasons for the divorce.
They believe this is something everybody knows, that they're just following the rules.
What I've noticed, though, is that every person I've heard espouse this worldview was straight.
Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life.
It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.
Remembering the negative aspects of your marriage can go a long way in helping alleviate any the unpleasant idea of him/her dating again. I’m sure you’ve heard that saying, “The best revenge is living well.” Well, it’s true!
If you are feeling jealous, the last thing you want is for your ex to know.
The special things you had together were unique to the two of you. When that time comes you aren't going to waste time worrying about who your ex is with.
So, when you feel jealousy or discomfort over your ex dating, remember that no one can really take the same place in your ex’s life that you had. Letting go is a process, and it may take you some time and effort to get there. Why not start not worrying about that now, instead of later?
The reverse is also true; no matter how much you love discussing your dude with your besties, his ex can probably live without hearing the details of his current sex life. It's OK to come to your partner for advice if you're arguing with your friend, or vice versa, but absolutely resist the urge to belittle or insult one of them to the other.