As much as we might be attracted to someone not saved, we must remember how impossible it is for an unbeliever to please God: “For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.
I believe this comes down to serving more than receiving.
You can be “friends” with non-Christians in the sense that you spend time with them, serve them, and listen to their problems.
This is what happened to King Solomon: Did not Solomon king of Israel sin on account of such women?
Among the many nations there was no king like him, and he was beloved by his God, and God made him king over all Israel.
There’s a lot the Bible says about becoming friends with the world, but in short Christians are to love people who are unsaved while still not becoming yoked with them.
We must always have healthy boundaries between our hearts and theirs.But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.” Here Paul makes a clear statement that teaches Christians it is never okay to marry a non-believer, “he must belong to the Lord.” 2 Corinthians -15 also states: Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? ” The reason God tells Christians not to date or marry non-Christians is because the direction of an unbeliever and a believer’s life should be totally different.Nevertheless, foreign women made even him to sin.” (Nehemiah ) Or the Christian will continue to pursue God but this will frustrate the non-Christian and there will be strife within the dating or marriage relationship. Will a non-Christian want to participate in the life of a local church?Will a non-Christian be comfortable as his or her spouse evangelizes?Will the non-Christian be secure enough not to feel judged by the Christian’s lifestyle?