But being a guy and trying to find a fish on here is extremely difficult when you've got to put together a long unique message together JUST to get a reply. Last week I was mailed by someone that started off..... We've mailed back and forth thru the past week and I'm being pleasantly surprised by this gentleman. Then drop it by profile review and I'll swing by----don't worry, I'll keep it real. I will respond only if I A) think we have something in common B) like what I see C) if I do not feel it is some made up, copy and paste bullshit e mail.Now if that/those individual(s) don't respond thats the end of that, but if/when they do respond 90% of ladies you start to chat with are completely hopeless and deserve to be on POF. Initial attraction is more often about the pics than anything you say. It didn't take much, but the things that he asked were funny and sincere questions and I've reciprocated, in kind. I am using the Gym and Home Depot now as my dating selection arena.
We believe contact initiation is driven by a number of factors. --For Men: Higher SES and/or high-end career (e.g., earning 150k per year; career in Finance) had no effect on contacts. Long-Term Relationship preference: Using loglinear analysis, we investigated the effects of casual vs.
These include: (a) basic attraction characteristics from reflecting Social Exchange Theory (e.g., physical beauty, social status) (b) males' role to pursue females (suggesting males will initiate contact) as supported through Evolutionary Psychology (e.g., Buss, 1994) (c) profiles which are unique, reflecting Optimal Distinctiveness Theory (Timmor & Katz-Navon, 2008). However, more unique male profiles/career (e.g., an exotic job such as "rodeo clown") showed an increase in average e-mails compared to more standard or mundane profiles (mean average of 3.85 vs.
I’m not going to change the general tone or point of the emails but I am trying to ensure he remains anonymous by changing some of the specifics.
Here is my reader’s first email to a girl who was originally from the same area as him Lonestar State What’s up?
Why do some ladies expect so much on the first contact. *or*Put some effort into a real, honest, lengthy profile and keep the category at "dating."I don't expect too much. Mocking laughter is still a reply at least Imo,the most inviting part of your profile read was your offering up/invitation to discuss different flavors of chicken wings .
There are wayyyyyy too many ladies who get a lot of mail everyday, and I understand that. I would just like to get a sense of the man that makes contact, which enhances what he's got on his profile. Going to just C/P a reply to another thread about this No no no no no... Just send a picture of your C0ck with your first mail, that way you will always get a reply. If you want responses that have substance and depth than you need to stop that flossin' and lay down some words/thoughts that 'represent'..other words, I think it is safe to say that there are those that don't give a rats as.s how well you 'throw it down' when your partying or your wish to own the world..about starting with trying to 'own' that page like it belongs to you instead of some wannabe balla putting on show that's boring the sh1t out of me..get busy letting those creative juices flow! Common sense seems to be a skill lacked when people do not actually "read" profiles, then ask questions that are just the opposite of who I am and what I do. Just use your brain, have some similarities with the person, actually share some common things (helps for conversation) and suggest a meet ASAP if there is enough there.
Research evaluating online dating interactions have provided findings similar to those in "live" dating settings (e.g., a preference for individuals who are more attractive than themselves with high-incomes, similar education levels/personalities, men's preference for younger mates, and women's preference for older mates; Hitsch, Hortascu, & Ariely, 2010). --For Women: As profile attractiveness diminished, so did the number of initial contact e-mails (no changes were noted for males).
What characteristics in an online profile lead or "lure" someone to initiate contact? --For Women: An intense number of e-mails were received the first 3 days of postings, which then level through the remainder of days listed.
With that in mind, I’m not saying his emails are bad.
I just believe based on my own experience they can be improved upon because sometimes we make our first emails out to be more than they should be.
Ask something about her interests from her profile. If she has pets ask what kind, if likes to fish ask her what kind of fish is her favorite etc... If your first contact is the size of my post here thats enough info for a first contact. If you aren't what they are looking for, no amount of prose or poetry in your email will change that. If I see your profile up and waiting, I'm up for giving you suggestions. OP,,,,in my opinion, that Cowboy guy up ^^^^ there is right on.