But what you have described, as troubling as it sounds and must feel, is not insurmountable. You need to remember that people are human and capable of extraordinary feats as well as devastating disappointments. Being Christian, having “values” — and by the way, plenty of people who don’t call themselves Christians have the strongest of values while lots of people who would choose is a mistake either.) Holding one’s self to a rock-solid code of morals doesn’t make one perfect. Isn’t one of the biggest tenets of Christianity forgiveness for precisely this reason? And we hope that the people we love and the God we worship, if we are religious, forgive us.But, in the case of your husband, you aren’t even clear what the sin is.Their biological father was not, and is not, an active parent, and both my daughters love my husband, look up to him, and call him Dad.
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You can also check out the Top Posts page to get a feel for the site. Every home should have its own set of family rules.
Of course, now I know he was looking at and fantasizing over her photos.
I also found out that he has been watching porn videos on the internet.
Family rules simplify explanations, clarify expectations, and create a safe environment for your children and their friends.
We have our list of family rules taped to the refrigerator.
My daughter should have been safe in her childhood home.
Other men have exploited her, but her step-father should have loved and protected her.
I copied this list down a long time ago from somewhere, and these rules have served our family well over the years. It comes from the book New Skills for Frazzled Parents: The Instruction Manual That Should Have Come With Your Child, by Daniel G. 67.) What do you think about having a list of family rules? How has having such a list been helpful to you (or not)?