It’s a common trick for daters of a certain age to post photos that are years old — and not always of themselves.
— that they were ‘comfortable in their old jeans’, that they liked country walks and red wine. At 63 he had a teenage son, plus he was paying maintenance for two other children from an earlier relationship.
We had nothing whatever in common, and I fled as soon as decently possible.
But for the internet, we would never have come together, and he taught me another truth — that as well as enabling you to find your soulmate, the internet also gives you a chance to meet somebody who is the exact opposite of what you are seeking in a partner.
His internet profile said he lived in an idyllic cottage with a log fire and that he was positive, creative, practical and content, except for that special person in his life.
We had arranged to meet in a pub opposite Reading Station.
But just before I was due to set off, he rang to say he had changed his mind. Online dating for older people sounds such a good idea, and ever more of us are signing up in the hope of meeting a wonderful new partner.
Our Time gathered a large user base over the years, made possible by its membership in People Media’s Our Time Community, which includes other elderly dating sites such as Senior People
Being part of a larger network is always beneficial for a service, as proven by the thriving community found on the site.
One divorced man of my age, who has been on these sites for six years, said that the first woman he met was £50,000 in debt, another wanted him to give her £350 to get her car out of the garage and a third hadn’t mentioned that she had severely impaired vision — the ultimate blind date.
Another man said that he met somebody who seemed great and they got on so well that they arranged to go on a holiday to South Africa together.
The site was brought to life with the premise of serving the needs of aging daters, and has therefore developed features specifically for this niche audience.