As we know, gambling, alcoholism and abuse is rife in such economic settings. Moreover, once a Thai girl has been in the bar, she will struggle to get a Thai boyfriend at all.Therefore, once in the bar, a westerner/foreigner isn’t a choice, he is the only option.If you know an iota about Thai culture, you'll know that a girl who has worked in a farang-style beer bar will struggle to earn the respect of other Thais going forward.
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Girl then becomes determined to give a better life to her children, and to elevate the face of her family in the village.
Girl hears from another girl that working in a bar in the city, or on one of the popular tourist islands, is the best way to make fast money, and to meet a rich foreign boyfriend who will be prepared to take on her kids and support her parents (or a story very similar to that).
Two of the more preferred terms are “Poo ying gaan koon” (lady working at night) or “Poo ying haa gin” (lady looking/finding (something) to eat).
A girl who has worked in the bar, regardless of whether she bags a rich farang or not, will suffer a lifetime of gossip and stares from the village folk, not to mention the standard whispers and looks most Thai women endure when they have a foreign boyfriend.
Partnered by her family with an ill-suited young man, who quickly becomes restless and ends up boozing and womanising like his father did, and his father before that. Girl receives no social security money from the state, or child maintenance from the father of her children.
So, pressure falls on the girl to find work to support the children and her aging parents, who, by the way, she has already disappointed by having a failed marriage, and further upset by now being a single mother and scarring the face of family pride.
Due to her lack of education, the girl then weighs up the other options as a cleaner, rice farmer or factory worker; facing ridiculous hours of work that will never provide enough money to make her children’s/parent’s lives any better than the current situation.
So, girl migrates to the city/island to start her covert initiation into the world of prostitution; most likely with no idea what it entails and what she's letting herself in for.*At this point it should be noted that some (not all) girls arrive at bars in debt to middlemen who arrange travel and accommodation.
Recently a friend of mine asked me why I didn’t write posts about Thai bar girls and the sex scene to increase traffic on my blog. The answer was short and simple, yet the explanation slightly longer. The subject matter of bar girls has been discussed into oblivion on hundreds of other websites.
Blog and forum owners happily let people thrash out misogynistic musings on their sites as link-bait to drive traffic, but this isn’t what I set up my blog to do, and the reality is that Thailand is so much more than the bar scene.
I don’t see a girl who grew up aspiring to be a dirty old man’s fantasy, or a girl who aspired to have nightly sex with western men she doesn't find attractive.