This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone off of the internet. I have even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.
Too many guys make the mistake of making their profile look like it belongs on Instagram.
I experienced much better success when I removed my 10 photos down to just two. Shirtless pictures, even if you’re ripped, are hit or miss.
From there, I even took it down to one photo at some points. No, most people tell me I’m above average in the looks department. A shirtless picture of you playing beach volleyball is better than a shirtless mirror selfie.
However, you must understand with online dating, that girls are looking for a way to disqualify you. Personally, I used a photo of me playing guitar, with my side showing. It left all sorts of mystery, and girls rarely had a problem with me only having the one picture until we moved to texting, in which they would ask for another.
So they turn to OKCupid, and then start going on these dates, but their date skills aren’t any sharper than their approaching skills. Have a couple good DHV stories ready, learn the questions game…etc.
Take advantage of the fact that most girls will have ridiculously low expectations, and blow the socks, dresses, and panties off of all of them.It means if you put that you make 0,000/year, you can’t show up driving the Civic you drove in college. However, if you go with this type of profile, your messages have to be congruent to it. Somebody else would have to advise how to write a “serious” profile.It means if you’re a fatass, you can’t put that you have an athletic build. For example, if your profile says that you’re a real midget with a job in the circus unicyling, and that your ultimate goal is to ride a lion, you can’t go and send a sappy ass message about how you liked her hobbies and thought you’d hit it off. I never had success when I took it seriously, especially with girls my age.Therefore, I had good success with this opener: As a final note, also make sure your profile questions are congruent to who you are. I’m hoping to find someone to help heal my broken heart.” Get it? Don’t waste any more time past getting her basically comfortable with you until you go for the kill. Plus, all illusions we build on here are shattered within 3 minutes of meeting in person.You need to answer probably about 100 of them, because it is a way for them to screen. One question usually posed was, “Have you ever had your heart broken? I rarely waited longer than 3-5 messages, depending on the vibe, to send this as a number close. In the end it’s all about chemistry so…quick drink to see if we get along.I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.