Is the situation you’re in with this person part of a recurring theme for you?
One study found that speed daters questioned about their relationship preferences usually prove themselves wrong just minutes later with what they show to prefer in the actual event.
This shouldn’t be a surprise—in life, you usually don’t get good at something until you’ve done it a bunch of times.
But unlike death and the universe’s size, picking a life partner is fully in your control, so it’s critical to make yourself entirely clear on how big a deal the decision really is and to thoroughly analyze the most important factors in making it. I’m pretty sure no one over 80 reads Wait But Why, so no matter who you are, that’s a of time—and almost the entirety of the rest of your one existence.
(Sure, people get divorced, but you don’t think you will.
Finding Potential Soulmates Transforming a Potential Soulmate into a Lifelong Soulmate Community Q&A Sometimes finding a perfect romantic match is based on luck.
However, you are more likely to find a partner in life by working on improving your attitude toward yourself, love, dating, and relationships.A recent study shows that 86% of young people assume their current or future marriage will be forever, and I doubt older people feel much differently.So we’ll proceed under that assumption.) And when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you’ll hear about 18,000 times. So given that this is Studies have shown people to be generally bad, when single, at predicting what later turn out to be their actual relationship preferences.The bigger the challenge and the more you have to grow on a soul level to meet it, then the number of lifetimes you have spent with this person increases.Remember – this goes for negative experiences as well as positive ones because often we learn more from failures than we do our successes.Sometimes we learn the lesson the first time – but if we don’t, then we are set to repeat it until we do.