(I distinctly remember being in a spin class and commenting on the pearls the girl next to me was wearing.
Spoiler alert: it didn’t work.) I also met one of my dearest friends in Florida because I shared about our move on Instagram prior to moving and she invited me to brunch once I got relocated. Couple friends are valuable assets as you settle into married life.
While I was beyond excited to stop long-distance dating, for me, getting married meant packing up my life and moving it to a brand new city and state.
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It’s really easy to hide away at home when you’re feeling lonely and homesick, but it’s also nearly impossible to make new friends that way. A few months after moving to VA, I remember someone asking how long it had been since I’d moved to town. Just because you moved doesn’t mean you have to let go of all the great friendships and relationships you established in your former location.
So, go out and pursue your interests, and be open to finding a new friend along the way. At the time, it had been a little more than five months, and while it was getting easier, I still didn’t feel ‘at home.’ She wisely said, “Give it a year – you won’t believe how different you’ll feel once you cross that 12-month line.” Remember, there’s a lot to figure out, from navigating the layout of your new grocery store to driving around your new city without using GPS 24/7, so show yourself some grace. Give yourself 365 days to get settled and comfortable in your new location. Schedule consistent phone calls, Face Time dates, and Skype hangouts. I averaged a weekly mini meltdown in the months following our wedding, so having regularly-planned times to connect with old friends was invaluable for resetting and regaining courage after a hard day. I’ll never forget having coffee with someone right after I moved to Blacksburg, VA.
Joining Adams will be local comedians Ali Siddiq, Tommy Drake, Netra “Ms.
Already” Babin, and Chase Durousseau – a comedic powerhouse team ready to tackle those awkward family and relationship moments.
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And remember: a good attitude is like kudzu – it spreads.
I can’t tell you how many times I referenced it in the first few months.
If you’re the one who is settled in – here’s your chance to help out a new friend!
My go-to questions are “Do you have a pizza/sushi place? And, who knows: I met my first new friend in Blacksburg while I was getting a manicure on a dreary February afternoon. We live in the digital age, so use it to your advantage!