Christy told Swider she wants a man who is “kind, curious, smart (not necessarily book smart), and socially responsible.” She’s been drawn to finance guys in the past, but knows it’s been a history of poor matches.
“What I want to be drawn to isn’t what I’m actually drawn to,” she said, noting she’s had a history of picking guys who are bad for her.
“People don’t list ‘rich’ as much as I thought they would,” she confided. Instead, she claims you need to be brave, a good listener, and make people feel at ease.
There is a higher women to man ratio in Manhattan and for dating, that becomes super challenging especially for women who are over 30.
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“Guys aren’t traditional the way they used to be,” she explained. Apart from her admittedly terrible taste in television, Christy is a completely eligible bachelorette. You could ask her about her job in the public health field, but she’d rather tell you about the time she spent in Africa building clean-water communities. But, for those living in NYC, she’s one of a growing population of young women unable to meet someone in a city brimming with young hopefuls. ”Christy thinks people in the Big Apple have a very specific problem: “It’s like New Yorkers have Peter Pan syndrome,” she said, speaking to the ways we date a ton but don’t find many actual relationships.
“Women have kind of taken control of their dating lives. You know, not seeing someone past the fourth date or when those texts fizzle into radio silence. Christy’s tried Tinder, but found that, while she was open to dating, her matches were less so. She's met plenty of people through her job and social outings, but it’s still not working.
In response, Swider pieced it together quite nicely: “You’re looking for someone who’s a guy’s guy on the surface, but underneath he’s got a little more going on.” I was tempted to slow clap. Just because Christy was interested in being set up doesn’t mean the male community would be interested in letting a stranger send them on dates — especially when TDR’s core demographic is people in their 20s and 30s.
After all, if Christy’s having trouble meeting someone, what makes Swider any more qualified, or lucky, even?
“You have to approach dating the same way you would a job: networking,” she said.
I asked her what she looks for when she scans the room.
But, as Swider explained, for someone who’s constantly going out for cocktails and romantic meals, months of this can easily add up to that kind of money.