Egyptian Marriage " data-medium-file="https://i0com/ Hearing about the cultural differences and challenges they face has really made me reflect a lot on what I learned from through my second language, Arabic.
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This carried the expectation that we intended to get married.
I had to make a serious choice then and there, without even knowing this girl properly, about whether or not I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
That was until a bunch of came our way that threw a spanner in the works and brought the whole thing to a halt. It was a heartbreaking end and one that neither of us wanted but in the end it wasn’t our decision to make.
Today I’ve decided to share a few lessons with you that I learned from the whole experience. Some guys in the West still have the decency to talk to the girl’s father before asking her to marry him. In Egypt (and I suspect all over the Arab world) this is something that needs to be done right at the start when you start dating.
At the end of the very long discussion the girl’s father concluded by simply saying for marriage until they’re well into their mid-thirties.
The reason for this is that it’s expected that you’ll already have a stable, secure job and an apartment to offer the girl you want to marry.
Even in a country like Egypt where religion and family are number 1, possessions and status can still be a huge factor. You have to accept the fact that this is not about two – and this includes all the extended relatives as well.
This was one of my biggest concerns while I was planning to get married to this girl – neither she nor her family spoke a word of English and my family are monolingual English speakers with no interest in foreign cultures or travel.
We actually made our own hybrid word where we took the ending off the English pet name Being in a relationship with someone who speaks another language teaches you a lot of their romantic terms and expressions.
I used to have this romanticized notion that materialism was something that only Western and East Asian societies suffered from, and that eventually I’d marry someone from a poorer part of the world where it’s not an issue. Given the fact that most people in the Middle East are quite religious and a huge emphasis is kept on one’s spirituality as more important than anything else, there’s still a heck of a lot of status given to people with wealth.
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