This is different from sexually escalating: the idea is that women secretly want a man to force them to have sex (because rape fantasies, evo psych, it demonstrates “alphaness”, other bullshit).
Eventually my brother decided to “just go for it” with his girlfriend at a party.
They feel that women have somehow gained an unfair advantage in the world, making it virtually impossible for a heterosexual, cisgendered white man to get a break.
They see relationships as a fight for dominance and sex as a god-given right that’s being kept from them by women because REASONS.
Many people recognize that this mindset is very dangerous, but all criticism from women and feminist men only makes fun of their more extreme points rather than offering an alternative to men and boys that are frustrated.
I ask because I want something to offer men my age and younger when they say acting “alpha” is their only way to get the relationship they want. My parents have a feminist marriage, since my mother is the breadwinner, however my parents are not happy together. Part of this is a fundamental lack of compatibility (they didn’t want to get married but did because of unexpected pregnancy), but it is also because our father allows my mother abuse and manipulate him.
You may have noticed over the years that I cover a lot of topics that don’t seem to fit squarely in this blog’s mission statement of helping nerds date better.
One of the reasons why I write about feminist issues or bad behavior within the geek community is because, frankly, getting better at dating is a holistic system.
One of the more vocal subsets of this particular philosophy is known as The Red Pill.
Before I get too much further into this, allow me to share the email that prompted all of this: Doc, can you help?
He believed that all women are the same, that women are only good for sex and babies, that all women are too emotional/unreliable to vote, lead, or work.
He regularly insulted and talked down to his female friends, and touched them in ways that make them uncomfortable.
As I’m fond of saying, dating success is 80% attitude and 20% skill, and a of that attitude involves both issues of masculinity and also understanding and empathizing with women.