Relationships and emotions tend to cloud better judgment. Lewis’ , an elder demon makes the following statement in coaching a newbie.
Additionally, spiritual warfare is real, and if someone is truly a spiritual-seeker, a new relationship could be just the thing that the enemy uses to preoccupy their spirit. “It is funny how mortals always picture us as putting things into their minds: in reality our best work is done by keeping things out.” Although it is a fictional story, Lewis provides insight into the spiritual realm.
Unbelievers don’t have the same definitive objective, and so their choices are affected by their earth-bound ties.
If your ultimate goal is to win your sweetheart over while dating them, you are unintentionally sending a subtle message.
This memo communicates that you aren’t very serious about your relationship with God, at least not when it comes to relationships because you are compromising sharing Christ within what might become the most valuable earthly relationship you have.
But have you ever thought about the unfairness of shackling an unbeliever to heavenly goals, when they may not be able to one day reap the heavenly rewards?
In other words, if you are holding steadfast to boundaries that protect your purity and pastimes that honor the Lord, your unbelieving boyfriend or girlfriend is being forced under the law when grace to follow God has not yet been granted to them.
And if your own personal commitment to Jesus is lacking, you won’t give much incentive for anyone close to you to follow Him, too.
At best, you set an example of Christianity that picks and chooses from godly prescriptions.
them” refrain that neglects the spiritual well-being of everyone involved.
In other words, instead of painting the unbelieving partner as the evil scoffer that impresses weak Christians to backslide, grow complacent or leave Christ altogether, have we ever stopped to consider that they, like us, are beloved souls in need of God’s grace?
We want the people we care about to find in us a model of godly courage that leads them to the same kind of zeal for living that Jesus has.
Sometimes that means skipping out on momentary happiness and potentially hurt feelings, understanding that following God does not lead to disaster in the long run but offers life and ultimate blessing ahead.
You’d recognize that familiar “I met someone” starry-eyed glow anywhere. He gets along so well with my family, and he respects me.