In the end, they wind up looking for big pockets and someone who can fulfill that Cinderella fairytale.
“There’s a bond that’s created when you build with a person from the ground up.” So it makes sense when a rapper like Kendrick Lamar gets engaged to his high school sweetheart after being together for ten years.
“She’s my best friend,” says the Compton native of his bride-to-be.
“Men with money have tons of women at their disposal so they’re going to be real picky.
And that dude that’s spending all that money has it to spend so it’s not even a real indication of how he feels about you.” In women’s defense, however, he adds that a lot didn’t grow up seeing good men as role models so they don’t know what qualities to look for.
Granted, gold-diggers do exist, but every woman who does not desire to “struggle” with a man does not fit into that category. I’m smart enough to know that your intelligence, connections and work ethic—not the type of work that you do—is what truly leads to wealth and success.
But it seems like a growing number of men, hell people, don’t seem to know the difference. Men feel the pressure to earn more, pay more, treat more in dates and in relationships. They practically tell it to your face that yeah, I can buy an awful lot of expensive stuff, can you? Ladies, you don’t have to rub salt in the wounds of your man’s already deflated ego. Maybe you need not focus so much on his finances – unless of course he’s practically free-loading. If you are going out to dinner, say it’s your treat. Know that he’s stretching his budget to take you out on a fancy date. You know, stable employment, a kind and generous heart, someone who is funny, intelligent, consistent and faithful, etc. She wants a dude who has it all together.” Whenever my friend gets in this mode—which I still have yet to determine if jealousy or a self-esteem issue is the culprit—I cringe.Then he went into self-deprecating mode: “See, that woman right there [insert random acquaintance he knows] is my type of woman. It’s like a combination of complaining, not being confident enough in what he brings to the table and judging women based on their preferences equate to this annoyance of a concoction. In other words, he counts himself out of the race for her heart before the “Go! Each and every time I ask him to elaborate on why he feels this way, it all goes back to how she looks, how she dresses and the life that she appears to live from the outside looking in.He’s sexy, charming, intelligent and supportive as hell. Not the I-can-never-take-you-out-on-a-date kind but I-can-rarely-take-you-out-because-I’m-just-catching-up-from-a-few-years-of-being-out-of-work. But I’m super ambitious so it’s just a matter of time before I’m back on track.