We were upset from misinterpretations and unmet expectations.Eventually, we communicated and confessed where we were wrong.
I remember picking up the phone and calling my mom to share a struggle I had.
I was in seminary and had just started dating my husband Jeremiah.
Before marriage, we would have never imagined arguing over our sexual relationship.
After the newlywed phase settled down, I learned that switching gears in order to connect and be intimate after an exhausting day of work was really difficult.
I felt like we were constantly revisiting our purity and it was frustrating, but necessary.
We were weak and needed strict boundaries and accountability.
As followers of Christ we’re called to persevere in our purity, no matter if we’re single or married as 2 Timothy says: Our responsibility is to surround ourselves with believers who will spur us on towards holiness and godliness.
Was the difficult work of pursuing purity within my dating relationship worth it? It was a constant battle I was determined to fight in order to love and obey the Lord.
After an incredible wedding night and a few days into our honeymoon, I quickly learned that in a similar way I had to work hard at being pure in our dating relationship, I’d now have to be committed and faithful to sexual intimacy with my husband.
It would be a life-long journey of learning, growing, and being imperfect at times.
Those temptations might include inappropriate relationships with the opposite sex, emotional unfaithfulness, pornography, adultery, masturbation, or rejecting your spouse’s physical and emotional needs to name a few.