Since the late 1970s, so called “toyboy” relationships—defined as a woman married or cohabiting with a man five years or younger— have nearly tripled in the U. Why are older woman-younger man relationships on the increase, and why are people reluctant to accept them?
A 2003 survey by AARP found that 34 percent of women over 40 were dating younger men.
Because hey when it boils down to it you have to make the Cougar purr!
And if you are a younger man trying to make yourself more attractive to older women, follow these few simple guidelines by Catharine Hay, owner and dating advisor for ‘He’s 25, She’s 41′: If a younger man wants to get to know an older woman better, he should start out by speaking over the telephone with her as opposed to texting.
We grew up being taught that this was expected of men with good manners and good manners never go “out of style.”The biggest issue for older women when dating younger men is their concern about appearing “old and unattractive.” We don’t expect, nor want, false platitudes, but a genuine effort at making us feel attractive is greatly appreciated.
We want to know that you are able to see beyond the signs of age to the woman within.
Women in their 40s and 50s did not grow up with the practice of “texting” and might consider it a bit offensive.
Additionally, it is difficult to get to know someone without being able to hear their tone of voice and the nuances of their speech.
One Cougar interviewed for the piece mentioned that about 75 percent of the relationship she had with her younger boyfriend was based on sex, while the other 25 percent included having fun with someone and exploring something new. Well commitment is never a guarantee no matter the age of either party.
As such, Hildebrandt’s motto is “if it happens it happens.” She is well aware of the risks in dating someone younger (like if he wants to eventually start a family) but she doesn’t let that stop her pursuits.
They are attracted to the “youngish package combined with a more ‘mature’ mental package,” according to another Cougar interviewed.