What is important to know for anyone getting into a new relationship following a long term relationship is that, if you are not done grieving, the new person or situation may serve as a temporary distraction, but the anger, sadness, fear or hurt you need to feel will not go away until it is fully expressed.
Although men and women differ greatly on how they deal with their emotions, it is generally true that men move into new relationships sooner than women do.
But the day I die, my last thoughts will be regret that I shall leave her alone.
So sad, to me, to know that after so many months of total concentration on my welfare — days of putting up with my misery and never letting me see her own misery — her reward will be to be left alone.
However, today the grieving spouse may begin to date whenever he or she feels ready to do so.
The letter you remember was signed "'Mac' in Oregon," and it bears repeating.
Check in with yourself and do your best to make an honest appraisal of how "ready" you are to date again.