We only spoke in Japanese with each other for a short time before he started to learn English, so he could communicate with me better.
We eventually stopped speaking Japanese and now I’m actually unable to speak Japanese in front of him (shy, embarrassed … I actually forget that he’s Japanese and that he can speak Japanese.” After we got married we had some trouble with things like housework and money, but I’m not sure if that’s just him, a Japanese trait, or normal married life.
And from these differences, the biggest one would be language.
No matter how fluent each of us becomes in our second language, something is always lost in translation, and that can quickly escalate into a huge argument until we don’t even remember what we started arguing about in the first place.
After publishing the article “The Truth About Dating In Japan As A Foreigner” a lot of female readers asked me what it’s like to date a Japanese guy.
Many seemed to be interested in cultural differences and resulting problems in the relationship between a foreign woman and a Japanese man.
Those that stand true to who they are seem to be the ones who find solid relationships. What we consider common sense is very different.” “When I first started dating my husband he was embarrassed to hold hands with me in public.
In my case, for instance, men are quick to bring up the topic of bikinis and love hotels the minute I mention I’m Latina. For a long while, after the loss of someone I planned on spending my entire life with, I gave in to that stereotype and was unable to get involved in a serious relationship.” “Now, I’m in a happy relationship with an older man who doesn’t speak a lick of English or Spanish, which is my main language. For one, I’m very passionate in my way of moving and speaking, and I sometimes forget to respect personal space. This applied more in Japan than when we were in England, although now he seems completely okay with it.
These are the types of guys I feel we foreign girls encounter most. ” I think that’s generally a big problem – not only when trying to find an “honest” relationship, but also true friends.
I’ve heard from many people that they were just “used” as an opportunity to get free English lessons (or whatever their native language was).
In general, Japanese men are likely to be embarrassed about showing affection in public – even things like putting an arm around someone’s shoulders, or hugging, never mind kissing.
Very touchy feely Japanese couples are definitely NOT the norm.” “Long working hours and overtime are common here in Japan.
Although I’ve been in Japan for 6 years now, I totally lack that kind of experience.