For all the talk about “The End of Men” and how gender roles have been obliterated and women can write to men first, blahblahblah, here’s what ACTUALLY happened after four months: • The women as a group received over 20 times more messages than the men.
• The two most attractive women received 83% of all messages.
We just never found anyone that we clicked with, and some of the sites were very hard to use and it was impossible to get any help from the customer service. We met when we met in a chat room on Passion Search and finally went out on our first date a couple weeks later. It's amazing to think we would never have met each other if it weren't for Passion Search.
• The two most attractive women probably would have received several thousand more if their inboxes hadn’t have reached maximum capacity.
• It took 2 months, 13 days for the most popular woman’s inbox to fill up.
However, it’s always good to back up hypotheses with facts, and that’s what Jon Millward did with this experiment, posted on his eponymous blog.
“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people.
You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women.
As a woman, your takeaway is that while you may get frustrated at the lack of quality responses, put yourself in a man’s shoes.
He has no idea what to write in his first email to you, and he’s competing with hundreds of men for your attention.
I have dedicated an entire volume of my bestselling audio series, Finding the One Online to how to write emails just like this.
Online dating may be a jungle, but it’s a jungle with a LOT of single people, so it’s best to learn how to master the process.
Every man and woman online still has criteria that must be met by people who want to date him or her, and every guy and girl is still in direct competition with every other person of their gender…