Plus, since I live in a small community, there aren’t many opportunities to date and less of a selection of potential partners.
I had not met any of them, but we are a very tight-knit group online, and I was excited about meeting.
I had also planned a date with a woman I had also met via Facebook, in a group for FTMs, butches and femmes.
Looking back, it seems dating was much easier when I was a cis-gendered female, rather than it is now that I am an out trans guy.
But there’s no denying that the dating part itself presented fewer challenges as a cis-gendered person.
After I came out as trans (FTM), my lesbian relationship was ending, and my first instinct was to stick mainly to gay and lesbian dating sites.
Perhaps this was out of a desire to meet and connect with people in the queer community; perhaps it was because I wasn’t totally comfortable identifying as heterosexual, despite the fact that I was a man and was attracted to women.
Our mutually neutral reaction to one another must’ve had some promise, as we planned to go on another date the following weekend.
But on the day of the date I received an angry text.“When were you going to tell me you are trans? My work in the media and a couple of published articles must have tipped her off.
This June, for instance, I attended the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference for the first time.
I planned to meet up with some trans guys who were members of a Facebook page I belonged to.
I was waiting until we had gotten to know each other better.”Then she pulled out “the big guns,” or perhaps I should say “gun.”“Well, I like sex! ”Some of you may find this shocking, but sadly, this kind of gender (and genitalia) policing happens to many transgender people who simply want to go out, have a fun time and meet people.