But just because somebody should do something doesn’t mean they will, for whatever reason. 😉 But be that as it may, it does bother you and my bet is that you are trying to figure out a way to address it without making him defensive or damaging the relationship.
My feeling is that you should take this as an opportunity to learn how to deal with this sort of thing… First and foremost, get a handle about how you feel about it.
And no, “clues” to a guy does not include a facial expression, voice tone or some kind of hint. Bottom line: If you show your boyfriend exactly how to make you happy, he will do his best to do it. He still call me everyday and gets mad when I talk to other guys. It all seems to me as a really bad joke from Nature…and a very bad lie, delusion and fraud from hormones, emotions and everything that make a woman have feelings as a woman yet when she is small and growing up….is a trap for her…since a little girl when she believes that once when she is a lady her dreams about her and her husband (love) will fulfill…and she search from one man to another and will never find what she REALLY NEEDS…
To a man, a woman who is thoroughly happy with him is a beautiful woman. He said I should give him and myself time before I go jump into other relationship . She will learn new rules of men´s games, reading articles about how men are thinking, feeling to make it better, but it is only blind HOPE for her, it hepls only for a while – she just understand him but she still doesn ´t det what she needs…then she just learn how to supress her needs inside of her and try not to suffer so bad…but it is not like true enjoying life, just surviving…because it is not NATURAL for her to behave like that and she suffer, some of them bedome ill, get cancr etc…only men can heal it and stop us from suffering…but they will not do that, because they have 10000 reasons, at first that it is not NATURAL for man to behave just a woman needs….
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months now.
We’ve already had sex and I think we took it way too fast.
We don’t like chit-chat if it’s not towards a purpose, it’s just not how we’re wired.
I would say that if he says he’s going to text or call you, he should do that…He won’t get defensive if you put it in these terms. He still came over , he still made love to me and he still called me every day . he would just do and say things he know he should not say , things he would have never said when he first met me. We have had a great relationship with no argument or fights ever…On the other hand, you definitely do NOT want to come from a place of blaming, assuming or attacking. He talked about his plans for our life, wanted me to meet his family. 6 to 7 months later he goes to visit his family do to a death in his family. So he tells me he just want to be friends right now until he get things together. He said he will not talk to anyone else and ask me not to as well. He became jealous when I went out with another guy. He still saying he loves me and blowing kissing good bye. I just stop being his priority and did not feel special anymore. only the lack of feeling like he wanted me as much as I wanted him. These articles are right, very good and I believe them.Can you give me a reason that would help me understand why this keeps happening? I would say go for understanding, don’t go for resolution. I need to hear things like I love you and miss you more often then he is willing to say, he says I’m too needy.When you put it to him like that, you’re not blaming him, you’re just telling him how you feel and asking for an explanation you can understand. But when he does something selfish are hurt me, I bring it to his attention and just get snobby about it when we were dating and he felt pressured . Ok, he gets off from work and plan to go off with his cousin and he have not taken me out in weeks. He says he needs a woman who is confident that he loves her. I feel like he is pushing me away because he is scared.Bluegirl – I liked your comment more than the article itself. These kinds of glorified “listicles” exist to mollify the existential ache of feeling misunderstood.