When you’re dating someone who’s separated, you’re dating someone who is still legally married which may not be a big deal to you on day one, especially if his wife lives in a different time zone.
You’ll be stuck with a child, have no husband, and you’ll assume all the complications involved in such reality show.
If he returns to his wife, you end up being a baby mama; if he thereafter carries on relationship with you, you’re a concubine. Even with a will, the legal wife will still view you as an unwarranted interloper. You may want to avoid all those cemetery scenarios in which your child makes his public debut at the graveside.
You’ll always be secondary in the scheme of things. It has to do with the nature of divorce and the natural consequences of separation.
When a man is having marital trauma, his natural instinct is to seek amelioration in the bosom of another woman. He is emotionally needful, lonely, depressed and suffering. And as life often has it, someone will step into that role, providing kindness to him. He starts thinking of the idea of settling down with his good Samaritan.
Nonetheless, the truth is that the older you are when you are single and dating, the more likely it will be that you will date a man who is either divorced or separated.
As many of us know, both situations can bring a unique set of challenges.It can be a loose term thrown around when someone decides to take a break from marital responsibilities and challenges, but not the fringe benefits (aka sex); it can be interim break taken by two people who agree they aren’t the best fit for one another, or it can be a period of time when a couple commits to working on their issues while taking time apart.Dating a separated man can be a tough situation at best, and it can be a plain old predicament if you add children into the mix.Dear Jil, to be honest with you, you’re in a quandary. If you’re pregnant for him and he returns to his wife, you’ll be holding the very short end of a looong stick. There’s a probability it may lead to marriage, a probability; but there’s also the probability he may return to his wife.There’s an awful messiness involved in the later scenario. These are inevitable consequences of getting pregnant for a man who is separated but who returns to his wife.