You should date with a reasonable level of trust as a basis and your interactions serve as a series of checks and balances.Positive things increase your trust, dodgy stuff should have you rolling back and assessing the risk.If you have Fast-Forwarding habits, it’s a good time to address your beliefs and attitudes about dating because you’re setting yourself up for failure.
He kept trying to pick up the pace of things and after some initial reluctance she let herself get swept up in it and started to trust him and her feelings increased.
A weekend in the country, romantic walks in the park, lots of phone calls and texts, and then being introduced one night to his friends and colleagues who all said they’d never seen him like that, all in the space of a few weeks. I have countless emails from readers telling me stories of guys (and women) who moved the initial dating period along at high speed.
From declarations of falling in love and ‘I love you’ when they’d barely known them a hot minute, conversations about babies, marriage, moving in, meeting parents and being whirled around like a show pony amongst friends, or hearing about how ‘Everyone is so eager to meet you’, to high intensity liaisons with persistence, great sex, average sex, and multiple phone calls, texts, emails, and letters in a bottle, all of these people have been whizzed at high speed through the early crucial stage of dating.
It’s called Fast-Forwarding and it’s a technique where someone sweeps you up in a tide of intensity when they’re pursuing you and you’re dating them that you end up missing crucial red flags.
), a day, a night, a few dates, weeks, months, and in some cases, some can play the long game and draw it out for a year.
When you get swept up in someone Fast-Forwarding you, you will basque in the adoration.Also don’t you remove the mystery and stuff to look forward to when you try to do it all very quickly? If you are being fast-forwarded you will miss crucial red flags that indicate that the relationship is unhealthy.Even without red flags, by Fast-Forwarding the relationship, you will both create great expectations that may stifle the relationship before it has a chance to prosper.If you took things a bit more slowly, you could actually get to know each other.The high intensity of Fast-Forwarded Relationships is impossible to sustain and when the intensity stops, it feels like you’ve crashed and burned.They also make the mistake of being so OTT that they create expectations that they cannot deliver on.