The children may already feel they lost one parent in the divorce, Baumgartner says, you don't want to put them through another loss if this relationship ends.
It's also important to consider the age and personality of your children.
And Baumgartner says that single parents need to consider that this may be true.
I'll admit it, dear reader: I have a very sordid dating history.
I'm closing in on 30 and while I have never been married, I have been in enough serious relationships to know exactly what I don't want in a partner.
"I always remind my clients: You've already had your kids and white dress moment, so there should be no rush to the altar again." Don't focus on finding the one; concentrate on meeting new people, developing new friendships, and having fun.
It's worth being upfront about the fact you have kids, Zane says.
"In my coaching practice, I suggest that single moms do the inside work to get really clear about their wants, needs, values and beliefs and get in touch with their intuition," says Kerri Zane, single-mom lifestyle expert and author of It Takes All 5: A Single Mom's Guide to Finding the Real One.
Once you've decided that you're ready to date, it might feel impossible to find the time.If activities seem too hard on your schedule or psyche right now, Zane says to look into the Internet dating scene."They are fun, flirty, and super ego boosters," says Zane.Don't have shared custody or family or friends in the area? You're older now, hopefully wiser, and have kids to consider.You can't date the same way now as you did in your twenties, Baumgartner says."How would you feel if your kids came into your bedroom in the middle of the night with this person sleeping over?