“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people.
Every man and woman online still has criteria that must be met by people who want to date him or her, and every guy and girl is still in direct competition with every other person of their gender…
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.
Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.
I am getting terribly uncomfortable just thinking about it.
RD: Did you get ANY messages from guys that seemed nice at all? AW: No, but the creepy messages most likely ruined it for any decent guys that might be around.
That was one of the main reasons I called it quits.
It made me SO uncomfortable that guys so much older than me, older than most of my siblings (all of which are 8 years plus older than me), were sending me messages telling me that I was “hot”.• The two most attractive women received 83% of all messages.• The two most attractive women probably would have received several thousand more if their inboxes hadn’t have reached maximum capacity.Online dating may be a jungle, but it’s a jungle with a LOT of single people, so it’s best to learn how to master the process.As a woman, your takeaway is that while you may get frustrated at the lack of quality responses, put yourself in a man’s shoes.Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.” This is the double-edged sword of online dating.