Here in Medellin, you do NOT need to play that game.
Medellin nightclubs are for dancing, so it’s very easy to go up to a woman in a noisy disco, put out your hand, gesture for her to take it, and start dancing.
Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.
Many guys who come to Colombia cannot pick up girls in their own native language let alone in Spanish and some even have the audacity to say that the women here are just “gold diggers” or “too difficult” and that is not accurate at all.
More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.
Actually, I got more instant attention in Southern California; the “Latino effect.” The only thing that makes me stand out to women here is my height, thank God for that one tall great uncle! Regarldess, I look on the bright side and see this as an advantage.
I speak Spanish fluently; therefore, I can’t play the “…no jaaabl0 Españoler mucho bueno. I’m naturally outgoing and funny, so I can really be myself when speaking Spanish.
Typically, very beautiful girls in Medellin will go to a bar or a nightclub in a group, and there will be guys in that group usually.
For an emasculated man from the United States, this is a nightmare.
D.) I started to read about this subject back in high school.
It is not about being petulant or rude, it’s about being confident (comfortable in your own skin.) I meet women in Medellin by just living my life.
It is hard for one’s true personality to translate when speaking another language, but luckily I am a fluent Spanish speaker and have learned enough Paisa slang to be my witty self.